Why He May Not Ask You To Dance

“I love dancing, but my boyfriend just watches on the sidelines.” “I go out dancing with my girlfriends because my husband won’t get out on the dance floor.” “It’s so much fun! Why won’t he dance with me???”

The truth is, he would love to dance with you. In fact, he would kill to be that guy who knows all the cool moves and shows you a great time out Country Two Stepping, Salsa or Swing dancing.

Then why won’t he…?

See, in the social dance scene, guys have a different role than ladies on the dance floor. In order to dance together as partners, he is the leader (= the brain) and the lady is the follower (= heart). He makes all the decisions on the dance floor, so that we can relax and have a good time. A lot of guys make it look easy, but, in their minds, they are thinking about things like…What style of dance do I do to this music? What is the mood? Is it fast and sexy or slow and sensual? What can I do next? A turn? Switch directions? A dramatic pause? Gosh, it’s so crowded!!

It’s a lot of pressure for the men out there. However, it’s not impossible. And, yes, it is a lot of fun, especially when you get to share it with someone special. Guys simply need some preparation time before they can join in the excitement of dance with you.

Here’s what your guy needs:

1.     The courage to give it a try. Ladies, be supportive and patient with your man. Score major points by getting him some private dance lessons. That way, he can get great dance tips BEFORE going out into a social dance situation. Remember: No guy likes to be embarrassed.
2.     Different styles of dances and their steps. As leaders, men need an arsenal of moves to choose from to impress their partners and keep them wanting to come back for more. The last thing you want your guy to be is a "one trick pony". With private Country, Latin and Swing dance lessons, your guy can be versatile and fun to dance with every time!

3.     Know how to identify music genres and styles. Guys need to KNOW what they are doing before they can do it with confidence. Being able to identify the music and what dance accompanies it is key. Once again, proper social ballroom dance lessons will give him that important information and more.

Don’t know where to get started? If you live in Phoenix, Arizona, check out Dance FX Studios in Mesa for completely customized private dance lessons. Your guy will be up and ready to hit that dance floor in no time! Our fun-filled group dance lessons are another way to pick up some cool moves before hitting the Latin clubs or Country bars. Both singles and couples are welcome, and no experience is necessary to begin learning at Dance FX Studios! Whether it’s Salsa or Country Western dancing, our instructors will break down all the cool moves you see out in the bars and clubs, and prepare you for any crowded dance floor.  Give us a call at 480-968-6177 today and let us help you to discover which dances are perfect to spice up your social life.