"It’s been awhile since I’ve been in the dating scene." "How do I go about getting out there?" "I don’t think I remember how it works anymore." As a ballroom dance instructor, these are some questions that I hear all the time from my single students.
Whether you’re newly single, dating for the first time or even trying to relate to all the changes in the dating scene, it can be scary trying to get out there and figure it out all on your own. Here are some helpful pointers to get you started on your journey in this crazy dating world.
1. Pearly Whites: If there’s one thing you absolutely need to do, it's smile. Smiling projects confidence, shows that you’re friendly and approachable and even makes you appear more attractive to the opposite sex. It’s not an opinion, just solid science that has been confirmed with study after study. Smile with your whole face — not just your mouth. Go out tonight and see if you don’t have a far better time talking because of it. (Plus: You're cuter when you're happy, and self-confidence is sexy.)
2. What If: Asking for a first date can be intimidating, but it's not the end of the world if the answer is no. To better the chances of getting a yes when you ask for a first date, stay flexible, keep things light. Think KISS (Keep It Simple, Sweetie). All you want to do here is send a clear, gentle, but important message: I'd like to spend some time getting to know you better. Are you interested?
3. Cybernet: These days, you're almost as likely to meet online rather than in person. Start building up your web profile but be safe about it. A blank computer screen is seductive. Beware the temptation to share more than you should online. Remember anyone you meet online is a stranger until you meet face to face and start the process of really getting to know each other. So, the first time you meet each other, make it a public place, and tell someone where you'll be.
4. Not the Only Fish in the Sea: When out with friends as you meet someone that you’re interested in, you shouldn’t be afraid to walk around the room and meet other people too. Check back in with your friends and grab a drink and then come back to your interest. You don’t need a reason to do this, it’s just a good thing to do. It’s a part of acting like you value yourself enough to give yourself a chance to meet a lot of potential dates.
5. Learn a Healthy Hobby: Take up hiking, golfing, join a gym or, my best suggestion: learn how to social ballroom dance. Here in Arizona there are a lot of Country bars and Latin clubs that you can go to meet new friends. What a great way to meet someone and talk for a minute then strut your stuff on the dance floor by doing some Country Two Step, Swing or even Salsa dancing. You can really sweep a woman off of her feet if you feel sure enough to take her for a spin on the dance floor! She will definitely appreciate you showing her that you can have fun and that you know how to move.
If you don’t know how to dance, there is a great way to get started here at Dance FX Studios in Mesa, AZ. Come in for a 50 minute introductory dance lesson with us and let us show you how to move effortlessly on the dance floor. We have a variety of dances, from Latin styles to Country, Swing, social Ballroom and even Argentine Tango, that can fit any style of life. Plus, dancing is an investment and a hobby you can take with you through your entire dating process.
Remember it’s a crazy dating world out there so don’t be afraid to be you. Smile, take risks, laugh a lot, don’t be afraid to walk away and learn to dance to enhance what you’ve already got.
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